{"id":1521,"date":"2012-11-07T08:00:05","date_gmt":"2012-11-07T13:00:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/?p=1521"},"modified":"2012-11-07T08:00:05","modified_gmt":"2012-11-07T13:00:05","slug":"siblings-we-shouldnt-compare-but","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/siblings-we-shouldnt-compare-but\/","title":{"rendered":"Siblings: We shouldn&#8217;t compare, but &#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>It&#8217;s so hard not to compare siblings when the evidence is all around. I&#8217;ve posted about Dylan here. Well, he has an older brother. Today, I got messages about my two boys:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>From the dean at Dylan&#8217;s school, a request that I come pick him up from school. Turns out Dylan got bored (or perhaps overwhelmed?) in math class and started kicking off his shoes repeatedly. One landed on another student&#8217;s desk, one hit someone in the back. He wouldn&#8217;t stop, so they pulled him out of class. He&#8217;s suspended from school tomorrow. This is only the latest in a string of behaviors that are totally inappropriate at high school. The district has been talking about putting him into a special school.<\/li>\n<li>An e-mail from an organizer for an event that my older son went to last week. According to her, he &#8220;has such a positive attitude, is very knowledgeable and personable.&#8221; He&#8217;s taking 3 AP classes and getting straight A&#8217;s while taking leadership roles in several extracurricular activities. He makes friends everywhere he goes. I should be proud and appreciate his accomplishments. I do, but it makes the contrast that much more painful.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Sometimes, I feel like holding my older son up as an example, to show that the younger one&#8217;s problems can&#8217;t be all our fault, because all our children aren&#8217;t like that. But that&#8217;s not fair. 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