{"id":1477,"date":"2012-10-19T15:00:20","date_gmt":"2012-10-19T19:00:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/?p=1477"},"modified":"2012-10-19T15:00:20","modified_gmt":"2012-10-19T19:00:20","slug":"child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/","title":{"rendered":"Child behavior is in the eye of the beholder"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>As you all know, I\u2019m hardly an expert on behavior. But I can speak for the facts, and those are that my kids really like each other. It\u2019s not because my daughter sucks it up to hang out with my wacky boy, or vice versa. It\u2019s because they truly respect each other as people.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ll take a little credit for that (since I can\u2019t take credit for curing Tourette Syndrome) and go so far as to say that you have to show kids how to treat each other. This often means playing bad cop and not worrying that their self-esteem is going\u00a0in the toilet because, God forbid,\u00a0you make them clean the toilet.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t know about you, but I think our culture does such a disservice to our kids. We try to do everything for them. We feel guilty if we can\u2019t. Or we try and over compensate by spending our life savings and credit cards on extra curricular classes and \u201cfeel good\u201d artificial experiences when really\u2026\u00a0<em>really\u2026<\/em>\u00a0what they need is to know that they are okay just because\u00a0<em>they are.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>When I began to embrace this idea, I felt less worried about the TS.<\/p>\n<p>While selfishly I hate the noises it brings, I welcome the invitation it offers me. Every tic seems to chirp, \u201cAndrea, this is one more opportunity to live life on life\u2019s terms. Since you can\u2019t fix the kid, give up the idea that he is supposed to have a perfect life. Let him, not you, earn that confidence.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Come back on Monday for my 10 ways to get your kid to work around the house. You won&#8217;t want to miss them!<\/p>\n<div class=\"fb-background-color\">\n\t\t\t  <div \n\t\t\t  \tclass = \"fb-comments\" \n\t\t\t  \tdata-href = \"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/\"\n\t\t\t  \tdata-numposts = \"10\"\n\t\t\t  \tdata-lazy = \"true\"\n\t\t\t\tdata-colorscheme = \"light\"\n\t\t\t\tdata-order-by = \"social\"\n\t\t\t\tdata-mobile=true>\n\t\t\t  <\/div><\/div>\n\t\t  <style>\n\t\t    .fb-background-color {\n\t\t\t\tbackground:  !important;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t.fb_iframe_widget_fluid_desktop iframe {\n\t\t\t    width: 100% !important;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t  <\/style>\n\t\t  ","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>As you all know, I\u2019m hardly an expert on behavior. But I can speak for the facts, and those are that my kids really like each other. It\u2019s not because my daughter sucks it up to hang out with my&hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue Reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":"","_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[52,197,303],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO Premium plugin v22.4 (Yoast SEO v22.4) - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Child behavior is in the eye of the beholder - TS Parents Online<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"As you all know, I\u2019m hardly an expert on behavior. But I can speak for the facts, and those are that my kids really like each other. It\u2019s not because my\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Child behavior is in the eye of the beholder\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"As you all know, I\u2019m hardly an expert on behavior. But I can speak for the facts, and those are that my kids really like each other. It\u2019s not because my\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"TS Parents Online\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2012-10-19T19:00:20+00:00\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Caleb Davidson\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Caleb Davidson\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"1 minute\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"Article\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/#article\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/\"},\"author\":{\"name\":\"Caleb Davidson\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/#\/schema\/person\/d6ed96ec2946fc7c978f4970acf4b3b6\"},\"headline\":\"Child behavior is in the eye of the beholder\",\"datePublished\":\"2012-10-19T19:00:20+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2012-10-19T19:00:20+00:00\",\"mainEntityOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/\"},\"wordCount\":296,\"commentCount\":0,\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/#organization\"},\"keywords\":[\"Behavior\",\"Happily Ticked Off\",\"Parenting\"],\"articleSection\":[\"Parents\"],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"CommentAction\",\"name\":\"Comment\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/#respond\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/\",\"name\":\"Child behavior is in the eye of the beholder - TS Parents Online\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/#website\"},\"datePublished\":\"2012-10-19T19:00:20+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2012-10-19T19:00:20+00:00\",\"description\":\"As you all know, I\u2019m hardly an expert on behavior. But I can speak for the facts, and those are that my kids really like each other. It\u2019s not because my\",\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Home\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"Child behavior is in the eye of the beholder\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/\",\"name\":\"TS Parents Online\",\"description\":\"For parents of kids with Tourette&#039;s Syndrome to share &amp; connect\",\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/#organization\"},\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":\"required name=search_term_string\"}],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"Organization\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/#organization\",\"name\":\"TS Parents - NJ Center for Tourette Syndrome\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/\",\"logo\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/7\/2021\/08\/NJCTS_logo.png\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/7\/2021\/08\/NJCTS_logo.png\",\"width\":1080,\"height\":537,\"caption\":\"TS Parents - NJ Center for Tourette Syndrome\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/\"}},{\"@type\":\"Person\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/#\/schema\/person\/d6ed96ec2946fc7c978f4970acf4b3b6\",\"name\":\"Caleb Davidson\",\"image\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/1d15ecf426f8f8b122044e0202435dd2?s=96&d=identicon&r=g\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/1d15ecf426f8f8b122044e0202435dd2?s=96&d=identicon&r=g\",\"caption\":\"Caleb Davidson\"},\"description\":\"Tourette Syndrome. A Neurological Disorder that causes people to tick and make noises. Hi, I'm Caleb Davidson, and I have Tourette's, I'm hear to tell you more about it.\",\"sameAs\":[\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/pages\/Tourette-Syndrome-and-Trial\/331431690200323\"],\"url\":\"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/author\/calebd\/\"}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO Premium plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Child behavior is in the eye of the beholder - TS Parents Online","description":"As you all know, I\u2019m hardly an expert on behavior. But I can speak for the facts, and those are that my kids really like each other. It\u2019s not because my","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"Child behavior is in the eye of the beholder","og_description":"As you all know, I\u2019m hardly an expert on behavior. But I can speak for the facts, and those are that my kids really like each other. It\u2019s not because my","og_url":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/","og_site_name":"TS Parents Online","article_published_time":"2012-10-19T19:00:20+00:00","author":"Caleb Davidson","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"Caleb Davidson","Est. reading time":"1 minute"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"Article","@id":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/#article","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/"},"author":{"name":"Caleb Davidson","@id":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/#\/schema\/person\/d6ed96ec2946fc7c978f4970acf4b3b6"},"headline":"Child behavior is in the eye of the beholder","datePublished":"2012-10-19T19:00:20+00:00","dateModified":"2012-10-19T19:00:20+00:00","mainEntityOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/"},"wordCount":296,"commentCount":0,"publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/#organization"},"keywords":["Behavior","Happily Ticked Off","Parenting"],"articleSection":["Parents"],"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"CommentAction","name":"Comment","target":["https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/#respond"]}]},{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/","url":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/","name":"Child behavior is in the eye of the beholder - TS Parents Online","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/#website"},"datePublished":"2012-10-19T19:00:20+00:00","dateModified":"2012-10-19T19:00:20+00:00","description":"As you all know, I\u2019m hardly an expert on behavior. But I can speak for the facts, and those are that my kids really like each other. It\u2019s not because my","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/"]}]},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/child-behavior-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Child behavior is in the eye of the beholder"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/#website","url":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/","name":"TS Parents Online","description":"For parents of kids with Tourette&#039;s Syndrome to share &amp; connect","publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/#organization"},"potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":"required name=search_term_string"}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Organization","@id":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/#organization","name":"TS Parents - NJ Center for Tourette Syndrome","url":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/7\/2021\/08\/NJCTS_logo.png","contentUrl":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/7\/2021\/08\/NJCTS_logo.png","width":1080,"height":537,"caption":"TS Parents - NJ Center for Tourette Syndrome"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/"}},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/#\/schema\/person\/d6ed96ec2946fc7c978f4970acf4b3b6","name":"Caleb Davidson","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/1d15ecf426f8f8b122044e0202435dd2?s=96&d=identicon&r=g","contentUrl":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/1d15ecf426f8f8b122044e0202435dd2?s=96&d=identicon&r=g","caption":"Caleb Davidson"},"description":"Tourette Syndrome. A Neurological Disorder that causes people to tick and make noises. Hi, I'm Caleb Davidson, and I have Tourette's, I'm hear to tell you more about it.","sameAs":["http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/pages\/Tourette-Syndrome-and-Trial\/331431690200323"],"url":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/author\/calebd\/"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1477"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/13"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1477"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1477\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1477"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1477"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/njcts.org\/tsparents\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1477"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}